Who said relationships are like glass

Challenges occur, flaws emerge. The rose-colored glasses come off and reality sets in. This is when love begins to morph a bit. In this more established stage of love ideally, the longest part of your relationship , saying loving things toward each other takes a bit more effort.

Love takes more effort, but practice makes perfect! As you weather storms together in life, you develop a deeper love and appreciation for each other than ever before.

One of the best things you can do for your marriage or relationship is to practice saying these little phrases as often as possible. As you both grow older, compliments can mean more than ever since wrinkles and extra pounds tend to increase with each passing year. When we choose to be with someone for years and years, sometimes we think that the other person must magically know what we think.

When your spouse makes a mistake, it can be hard on both of you. But what you say in that moment will have a lasting impact on your relationship. Weathering the storm can mean a lot of things for couples: enduring a death, going through financial difficulties, losing a job, major health issues and so much more.

The important thing is to make sure your partner feels your love through it all. Your support shows you love them enough to set aside what you want to do to put your spouse first. When love matures, spouses really get to know each other, inside and out. We watch each other and notice things over time.

As we experience life together, we find out what makes each other tick. Perhaps your significant other tells you about a problem with work. Because of your history together, you know how this makes him or her feel.

Having this connection is fundamental to long-lasting love and marriage. We may find this really easy to do for our children, but sometimes we forget to do it for our spouse. When the wind blows and the glass falls off the shelf and breaks or if my elbow hits it and it falls to the ground I say of course.

Accept it and let go. See the beauty of life and relationships in all its imperfections. When you know the glass is broken, every minute of every relationship is that more precious and meaningful. Because you feel much safer and you know that nothing can go wrong.

Because the glass is already broken. You can easily misinterpret the whole story. If the glass is already broken, then I can abuse relationships and hurt other people without any moral constraints. If the glass is already broken, why not break it even more. Who cares. Well, that's an entirely wrong perspective.

The idea of the story is not to become angrier, more frustrated and bitter, but to let go and free yourself from unrealistic expectations. The lesson of the story is to have a stronger center on yourself.

The idea is to enjoy relationships to the full without being scared about what will happen in the next moment. You absolutely must give your best in relationships and demand the same in return. Without mutual investments, there is no depth and there is no quality. Without quality relationships, there is no happiness in life. People are the ones making your life on Earth heaven or hell. There is zero benefit in that. First of all, if you're intentionally hurting others, it only means that you are either hurting a lot or you are a psychopath literally , which I hope not.

Then it brings drama, fights and severe negative consequences into your life. Not to mention all the karma points you lose. Your action should be the opposite. You should invest a lot into being a happy person with a center on yourself, managing both apes properly and not having unrealistic expectations towards the people in your life. Only on rare occasions it may happen that you get to lose control, because at the end of the day, you're only human like the rest of us.

And when it happens, you do everything possible to fix the damage and forgive yourself. Making one big stupid decision stealing, cheating, using violence … or several small ones constantly hiding the truth, flirting with others, being passive-aggressive etc.

So no matter how wild the apes go, make sure you know where to draw the line. Man is still good. We break things, tear them down, but we can rebuild. We can be better, we have to be. Blaz Kos writes about data-driven personal development at AgileLeanLife. Blaz Kos helps people shape superior life strategies by: 1 employing the best business practices in personal life management, 2 teaching established psychological techniques to better manage mind and emotions, and 3 setting goals based on understanding market paradigms, the quantified self, and following cold hardcore metrics that prevent any fake feeling of progress.

He is obsessively passionate about hi-tech, mass media, personal development and making the world a better place. Relationships are like glass — but the glass is already broken. Most common relationship-ending conflicts. I often hear things like, "If they loved me, they would know what I want and need. Boundaries should reflect who we are and our context.

Boundaries are not about setting ultimatums, gaining control or offering passive suggestions. Boundaries are about being clear about our needs, expectations and limits what we are willing to tolerate or not. More: I'm ready to resume dating. Can I date multiple people at once? More: Are you in a one-sided relationship? Here's how to tell. Sara Kuburic is a therapist who specializes in identity, relationships and moral trauma.

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